Self-doubt and intuition – they key is to believe in yourself!
Author: Esther Sarlo, BA, CEO | Founder | Myndful Spark of Mynd Myself
When was the last time you had a disturbing sensation that there was something wrong with you…but you couldn’t figure out what it was or what it was all about?
I recently had this niggly sense of self-doubt while I was working on the pre-launch of my new business. Despite being passionate about what I am creating, feeling confident that this is the right path for me, and hearing from others that this is a needed and important resource for people everywhere, this wiggling worm of uncertainty burrowed underneath.
“What are you doing?” “Do you really think the oligarchs and other global leaders will permit what you are creating to exist?” “Who do you think you are to have such big dreams?” “What makes you think you are qualified to bring something like this to the world?”
Sound familiar? (If not, you can insert whatever malicious malignancies the dark energies hurl your way in place of the ones thrown to me recently.)
So, what to do with these pernicious thoughts that seek to undermine? Do I need to know their source? Do I need to consult an expert?
Let me answer those for me…and you can see if it fits for you.
- I absolutely believe that I need to acknowledge undermining thoughts. Not dwell on them…but acknowledge them. Then find any nuggets that may exist for learning purposes…and let the rest go! Yup, let them go. Breathe them out…back into the ether from whence they came.
- If it’s a ‘voice’ I am hearing that is whispering or shouting—or something in between—these ideas to me, perhaps it would be a good exercise to turn up the volume until I actually recognize the ‘speaker.’ Chances are, it won’t be me. It will be a parent, sibling, teacher, aunt, uncle, etc. So…if it’s not me, once I identify it, the voice—and content—lose their power over me. I can then recognize the voice if it ever reappears…and make a choice as to what I’m going to do with it. Listen to it…or thank it politely and dismiss it.
- Consulting an expert is another choice I can absolutely make if something is persistent and I find that, over time, I am unable to deal with it on my own. In the meantime, I find that the more familiar I become with myself and who I really am, the more I tune in to the deep place within myself. The more I take action with my thoughts and deeds toward those things that truly serve my highest good. The more capable I become at silencing the destructive voice(s) that may arise to undermine me. And…the more I do this, the better I become at it.
I offer you a few quotes that inspire me:
Amelia Earheart once said,
“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”
Anti-hero Roseanne Barr said,
“The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.”
And beloved filmmaker, Nora Ephron, said,
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”
The fact that you’re still here reading this tells me you recognize at least a small piece of yourself in these words.
It is possible to make shifts in your thinking…if you want to…and if you practice.
Nancy Mair says,
“I will write myself into well-being.” I say, “I can also think and speak myself into well-being.” I believe I’m worth it…and I believe you are worth it too. You’ve got this!
